I thought to myself...
OMG...I can't take it!
Are these mothers this happy staying home, cooking, cleaning, volunteering, baking, visiting, planning, chaperoning, hosting, coloring, painting, and doing endless things for their children without thought or mention of themselves?
How long does this degree of selflessness last?
Five years?
Ten?
Twenty?
Perhaps I'm just selfish...
But it just all seems pretty dull after a while...
What do they talk about with their husbands?
What do their husbands think?
Do they find this SAHM thing interesting, or is the honor and responsibility of fatherhood the only thing that keeps them engaged? Would they rather plan their next date night or talk about a new sexy dress and shoe combo their wife plans to wear on their next night out with friends? Or, would they rather have their wife do a quiet, sexy striptease, void of any child related banter, while the kids are stuffed in and strapped to their beds to prevent any interruptions...
OMG...I'm so immature...
Nah...this is just hella boring...
I mean...how many art & craft projects, pictures and posts, classes, parent groups, books can you read and playdates can you attend before they all become the same?
This mother next to me giving the tutorial on how to discipline kids and the 3 partially engaged woman are driving me nuts...
Don't get me wrong...I love my children....but there is so much more....
Forget it...no more justification...
I'm going down to the cafe for a latte.
Well I'm glad to know that I am not the only 'selfish' mom on the planet. I mean I absolutely luv my son and I've been told I am a great mom (so there must be some truth to it lol) but wearing it on your sleeve (sometimes literally) or totally absorbing yourself in your children ONLY does NOT make you Mother of the Year...well at least not to me.
ReplyDeleteI am not the "wear-florals-as-SOON-as-you-find-out-your-pregnant" type, or the bake cookies with cutsey faces on them and all that other stuff but does it mean I'm any less of a mom? NO!
I choose to be the stilletto wearing, designer bag carrying, loud-blasting music mom and STILL make it to all the games, Pillsbury cookies STILL make my son happy (sometimes Entenmanns too), we travel together, we do all kinds of stuff together and noone needs to tell me how to discipline my child b/c what works for one may not work for another....whew! Did I vent or what? lol
Mandy
Yes...you did vent a bit but you didn't say anything that I've haven't thought before!
ReplyDeleteI'm with you...POWER TO THE UNCONVENTIONAL, SEXY, LOVE LACE CLOTHING, COCKTAILS AND MYSELF FIRST SOMETIMES, WHILE BACKING PRE-MADE COOKIES AND OTHER PREPARED FOOD PRODUCTS MOMS! POWER TO THE PEOPLE!!!!
I have been on maternity leave for a few weeks now and I am going nuts and becoming bipolar, I tried to keep my 2 year old with the new born, while running around to pick up my 5 year old from school. its crazy the whole loading and unloading in the car seats. Feeling guilty about wanting to return to work already in 9 weeks ... I'm bored and sick of laundry and cooking and nickelodeon!
ReplyDeleteAngela - I can definitely relate to the "I think I'm bipolar" feelings. I'm learning more and more each day all about the importance of taking time for yourself...uninterrupted! Not preparing bottles, or ironing clothes while thinking time... time for me and only me to be one with my thoughts. Don't feel guilty...I'm sure we've all been there a time or two in our lives.
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